Last week, I shared what will from now on be known as my ‘Shit Monday’ story. The one where I got fired before 9am and couldn’t push through the bad day and totally and completely wallowed in my own self-pity.
As you can imagine, bad news on a Monday morning can really mess with the rest of your week. Mondays are tough enough as it is. My confidence was shattered, I felt exhausted and defeated and, to be honest, I couldn’t care less about anything that needed to be done. The last thing I wanted to do was post an inspirational message on the Cool People Instagram, so instead I posted an honest message about honouring yourself.
When you’re having a bad day, it’s so easy to wallow, to call in sick, to stay in bed, to binge-watch Broad City (has anyone watched this? It’s amazing) and eat a lot of chocolate. Most of the time, we push through, because we have to. Because we have work to do, children to look after, a house to clean, and LIFE TO LIVE.
Then sometimes, we can’t push through. All of those little things I shared in last week’s post, survival tips for bad days, they just don’t work. No matter how hard you try and change your mindset, keep things in perspective, go for a run, shit is real and rough and tears ensue.
You know what? That’s okay. Let’s all give ourselves a break. Life is pretty exhausting. We work and play and love and talk and read and learn every day. The internet equals information overload, every damn day. It means constantly being in touch and connected with everyone you know, and even people you don’t know. I’m exhausted just thinking about it.
We deserve some time out. We deserve our bad days. It’s about listening to our bodies and honouring ourselves and realising when and where we need a break.
Now, if I “listened to my body” all the time, it would tell me never to go to the gym. Amirite? It’s all about balance. Sometimes your body will try and lie to you, and tell you that the pizza you’re about to consume for the third night in a row is so bad it’s good. If you follow your gut, you’ll know the truth.
I know, I know, gut instincts, blah blah. The last thing you want to hear when you’re having a bad time is, ‘Honour yourself, wallow, let it out, relax, you need it’. But you know what? I’m going to say it anyway. I say it to my friends when they’re burning both ends of the candle and I’m worried about them. My friends say it to me when they can see me running on adrenaline, suffering insomnia and headed straight for a burn out.
From what I’ve learned in the last couple of years, most creatives and entrepreneurs are total insomniacs. We’re constantly having existential crises and searching for our purpose, impatient to reach the next goal, the next goal, the next goal. It might seem like the pot calling the kettle black to say this, but we all need to chill the eff out. You probably say it to your friends and colleagues, and they say it to you back. Let’s start saying it to ourselves.
Given my history of depression, my brain has a sneaky habit of telling me that I will never get out of this headspace. That tomorrow I will wake up and not feel any better. All my problems will still be there and I won’t have the energy to smile. Sometimes, your mind can be a bit nasty. What a bitch, right? I’m no expert, and it’s still a challenge, but I just try and remember that tomorrow is a new day. Everything will be okay.
So next time you’re having a bad day and things don’t seem to be going your way, test out some beat-the-blues tips. And if they don’t work, try and be okay with it. Let yourself feel what you need to feel.
Tomorrow is a new day.